Football Rivalry Can be Friendly (Even Between Leeds and Derby) – by Rob Atkinson

Good friends and foes: yours truly and Rams fanatic Phil Cole

The very greatest thing about football rivalry has more and more come to transcend the very worst thing about it, and this is the road I have personally travelled since the early seventies, when football itself was more the people’s game, but when a minority of those people disgraced themselves and their chosen clubs by engaging in a pointlessly violent expression of the tribalism most football fans can feel without being silly about it.

So, the very worst of football rivalry, in my humble opinion, is clearly the needless overspill into violence. It solves nothing, proves nothing, and serves only to intimidate those innocent followers of the game, attending the match in the spirit of support and enjoyment, yet dragged helplessly into the ugly vortex of confrontation by mindless thugs. Thankfully, those problems are not so acute in today’s gentrified and sanitised game, proving that every cloud does indeed have its silver lining.

But equally, there’s no doubt the very best of football rivalry is that it can be conducted with deep feeling and extreme partisanship, yet in a spirit of friendship where those rival sentiments give rise to nothing worse than edgy banter, causing mirth rather than mayhem. As my beloved Whites are due to meet the Rams of Derby County on Saturday, this is a particularly relevant point to me just now. Leeds United and Derby were hardly the best of friends last season, what with Spygate and a lopsided record in the meetings on the field, with the outclassed Rams nevertheless having the last laugh. Ill feeling still continues, with Leeds keen to see investigated Derby’s tactic of selling their ground to themselves for a dubiously inflated price, County’s aim clearly being to avoid or evade Financial Fair Play penalties. Evidently there’s little love lost between the clubs or the rival sets of fans, and that’s a situation that’s applied now for many, many years. And yet friendships can thrive, even on such stony ground as this.

I have a mate called Phil Cole who, like me, is an actor. Unlike me, he’s met with considerable success, appearing in many high-profile theatrical productions – notably alongside the late, great Ken Kercheval of Dallas fame, who admirably portrayed the character of Cliff Barnes for many years with realism, style and class. I was sorry to hear of Ken’s sad recent death, as he’s a great loss to the acting profession and was also a good friend of a good friend.

I’m well aware that Phil is on a higher plane than I occupy, in theatrical terms at least. Still, it’s swings and roundabouts in this life, and I’m always reminding him that I’ve been relatively blessed in my choice of club, with Leeds United being perhaps my Dad’s most important bequest to me. In contrast, poor Phil is saddled with his love for Derby County, a burden he bears bravely and well. He loses no opportunity to make my life a misery on the odd occasion that his Rams lord it over Leeds – I had to don my tin hat when we haplessly lost last season’s play-off semi. But I like to think I give as good as I get, with a little interest – and it’s all done against a background of nigh on a quarter of a century’s friendship, which is how it should be.

Whatever Saturday’s result at Elland Road, whatever the ongoing relationship between rival clubs, this fan friendship will survive and prosper. For myself, all I can hope is that it’ll be me taking the mick on Monday, and not vice versa. But, if not, I’ll grin and bear it, with that tin hat on again. That’s what friendship of the football rivalry variety is all about, after all. Cheers, Phil!

8 responses to “Football Rivalry Can be Friendly (Even Between Leeds and Derby) – by Rob Atkinson

  1. Reality Cheque

    Reminiscing about the rivalry between Leeds United and Derby County and how things are much more about humorous banter than violence these days Rob had me thinking back to those days at the Baseball Ground under Cloughie & Taylor

    There was more grass growing on my decking than on that quagmire of a pitch Rob and do you remember that overhead gantry resembling a footbridge that the home supporters used to use to exit the ground as yet again Revie’s Whites played their way to a 3-2 win. Instead of light hearted banter the away fans were subjected to a shower of spit from above from disgruntled Rams fans making an early exit in those days

    Thankfully, the family football experience is much safer and enjoyable these days and football pitches resemble carpets rather than sandpits but its good to remember the good old bad old days Rob so thanks very much for triggering the fond memories. ALAW


  2. Barrington Womble

    Phil sounds lovely. I hope he votes Labour, though. And thinks Brexit is a rich man’s plaything.


  3. Life is LUFC

    Like you I prefer to see and hear friendly banter and laughing at the end of it.
    On holiday recently I was chatting to a chap who supported Burnley, We each had our say about poaching each others players etc. However we parted wishing each other a good season and hoping each others teams realised their dreams and he saying it’s about time Leeds were back in the PL because that is where they belong. We wished each other well, smiling and laughing and went our different ways, me home and he to work and not a fist or word of anger anywhere to be seen/heard… and we were strangers.
    Anyway Leeds regardless of who you are playing today let’s have a win please. MOT


  4. Life is LUFC

    This has nothing to do with the above really…………but oh what a Championship cup final that FIFA award is……ALAW, WACCOE, MOT, WAL.
    There is that much venom coming from all the other oh so mighty holier than thou clubs they are choking themselves trying to find the words to say well done Leeds United. Oh the glee, the happiness 😂🤸😂😂😂😂👏👏👏


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